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Pink's OK With Me

On Sunday, Feb. 20, the North­eastern Penn­syl­vania Affiliate of Susan G. Komen for the Cure will host its seventh annual Pink Ele­gance on Parade fashion show at the Radisson at Lack­awanna Station hotel, reports the Scranton Times Tribune. The fundraiser will feature breast cancer sur­vivors and others mod­eling fashions from Cold­water Creek, Lee’s Denim Diner, Luna Bleu and Sub­urban Casuals.

Por­trait Of A Lady In Pink Ribbons, by Raimundo Madrazo (Wiki­media Commons)

Some BC sur­vivors, thrivors, thrivers, in-​​the-​​throws-​​ers and whatever we might call our­selves (I still can’t make up my mind on this) express disdain. Others, lately, convey cyn­icism, if not frank con­tempt, for the pink cancer culture in its entirety.

Pink is tacky, pretty and pos­sibly too rosy a color to link with the fate of so many sick and dying women. I half-​​agree. But then again, I’ve never favored pastels: I’m a brown and gray sort of woman. When I’m feeling cheery, I wear navy or maybe mauve. This is not a policy statement; it happens those hues match my skin tone and nature.

Yes, I and others have written that it can be off-​​putting, that it clouds and dis­tracts us from the reality of cancer. But it takes a certain con­fi­dence to don a magenta outfit and not feel silly or exces­sively fem­inine (if there is such a thing), as I would, regardless of one’s BC status or awareness level. So I give women credit for wearing pink. And I’m half-​​envious, besides.

If you’ve had breast cancer and wear pink – why not? I fear the anti-​​pink movement is making people feel bad about wearing pink to show support for breast cancer awareness, fundraising and related issues. Which is ridiculous. People with breast cancer and their sup­porters should wear what they want and do as they please, at least wardrobe-​​wise.

So all power to you, women in Scranton and BC fundraising friends! Show off those post-​​treatment non-​​breasts. Be pretty in pink, and proud!

And I’m sure you won’t mind if I wear gray. In the end, isn’t this about sup­porting one another, and tolerance?

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8 comments to Pink’s OK With Me

  • It’s not simply about stinking on pink. It’s about asking deeper ques­tions of a movement that happens to be pink and whether what it’s doing is really working for the people who are really still dying from this disease. To equate breast cancer with “fun, pink, ele­gance” is per­sonally insulting to me, as a women dealing with metastatic breast cancer, but also under­mines the seri­ousness and truly ugly indig­ni­tiies of this disease. As our largest bc orga­ni­zation I would expect Komen to be a little more sen­sitive to the very people it intends to help before putting their name to such an event. But that’s where they’re getting it wrong. Pink has become syn­onymous with cel­e­bration and it’s just not right. For the record I still wear pink, but not as a symbol of a movement that has gotten off track nor for a disease that I likely will not survive.

  • As a member of the so-​​called “anti-​​pink movement” I’d like to comment on what I see as some of the crucial ele­ments of this critique.

    As Anna men­tions, there appears to be a dis­con­nection between the feel-​​good activ­ities sur­rounding some breast cancer awareness and fund-​​raising activ­ities com­pared to the harsh real­ities, not only of many people who are living with breast cancer, but also to what is on the horizon in terms of breast cancer pre­vention and cures. There are many of us who have strong con­cerns that activ­ities such as the fashion show and many others feed the pink ribbon industry without pro­viding a mean­ingful return on that investment.

    It’s true that over the past five years espe­cially society has seen the devel­opment of “pink fatigue.” This is largely because some of the most visible activ­ities in the name of awareness provide inac­curate or mis­leading infor­mation, mar­gin­alize groups of people, do not fund research, or are counter-​​productive in other ways. But the basis of the anti-​​pink cri­tique, for many including myself, is not about what color a person chooses to wear.

    I still have the first pink ribbon I ever wore. It was one of those cloth ribbons put together with a safety pin. Now I wear it to remind myself of why I got involved in breast cancer advocacy, to remember the people I’ve lost to this disease, to honor those who are striving to make a dif­ference, and to stand for thoughtful con­sid­er­ation of what is working and what is not working in pink ribbon culture.

    I agree with you that wearing pink is a per­sonal choice. But the out­comes of what has become of the pink ribbon as an industry and a culture are more social than per­sonal. These con­se­quences inevitably impact where this war on breast cancer is going, and whether there is any real hope that we’ll make progress toward the erad­i­cation of breast cancer or other cancers. Anti-​​pink is a call to “think about pink”–to look at all of the out­comes of how we as a society are orga­nizing around the cause of breast cancer, the pos­i­tives and the neg­a­tives, so that we might recal­i­brate our actions to make the most of the pos­i­tives and min­imize the negatives.

    Thank you for fur­thering this discussion.

  • Denise McConachie

    It dawned on me over the past couple of weeks that some of the issues that I am dealing with regarding my employer’s com­plete lack of empathy or under­standing are likely related to the Pink cel­e­bra­tions. Breast cancer is no big deal! You wear a pink feather boa and a pink wig to a run and it’s all better. Breast cancer is “the good kind” and I’m oh so LUCKY that’s what I got… Get OVER it, Denise. You were cured the day after chemo ended back in March 2010 and now it’s time to get back to being your former pro­ductive member of society. Big deal if your waist long hair is gone. Big deal if you are scarred, scared and tat­tooed. Big deal if you’re broke. Big deal if your face has aged te years and you’re packing 30lbs extra… You got the GOOD cancer!!!

    Well, there doesn’t seem to be any con­nection between the pink parties and what I’m still going through. The side effects, the depression, the financial trauma, the PTSD, the com­plete loss of identity, ego and physical self.

    My life has become nothing but tests, pills and doctors.

    When I see the pinki­fi­cation of breast cancer, I don’t see pink anymore.

    I see red.

  • Anna and Gayle,
    Thank you for your com­ments, both. (I’d hate to call this a “sen­sitive” issue, but came close.) What’s clear is that how we rep­resent breast cancer matters in ways non-​​trivial, for reasons including those Gayle artic­u­lates in her comment and thought-​​provoking book on the subject.

  • Elaine,

    I don’t think it’s helpful at all to try to divide people into “pro-​​pink” and “anti-​​pink.” When the dom­inant cul­tural message about breast cancer becomes fashion shows and beauty con­tests, that leaves no room for stories that don’t fit in with this nar­rative. And calling people “anti-​​pink” only increases the mar­gin­al­ization of people who are already left out of this message. What I advocate for is that we make space for EVERYONE’s stories to be heard, no matter what color they are.

    And on a purely objective cri­teria, what progress toward a cure has all of this pink brought us?

  • Elaine, I think that any orga­ni­zation should be above cri­tique. That doesn’t make people “divisive” or “anti-​​pink.” In fact, I believe that labeling people who speak out about orga­ni­za­tions like Komen as “anti-​​pink” is much more dam­aging and divisive.

    I am not sure I agree with you about real progress. 40,000 women in the US con­tinue to die of this disease every year and that number has not changed sig­nif­i­cantly. This fact is very glossed over by Komen, who calls itself “for the Cure” but con­tinues to emphasize “feel good” events.

    If you’d like to read an eval­u­ation of what Komen does vs what it claims to do, I suggest you start with this mutli-​​part series from Cancer Culture Chron­icles. http://​can​cer​cul​turenow​.blogspot​.com/​2​0​1​1​/​0​1​/​k​o​m​e​n​-​b​y​-​n​u​m​b​e​r​s​.​h​tml

  • Oops, I mean, I DON’T think any orga­ni­zation should be above critique.

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